Do Long Distance Relationships Work? - Evolve Her

Whenever you hear about long distance relationships your first initial thought is that they will not work.? I am someone who has always thought this, and probably when I was younger I couldn?t have made a long distance relationship work.

I like to think that since I have grown up a little and experienced a lot, I have developed in mature thinking.

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and for 2 of those years he has lived in another state.? It takes me a 5 hour plane ride and then an hour drive to see him each time.

I believe to make a long distance relationship work it requires the same principals as any other relationship, but with some enhancements.

The most important thing in my book is trust.? I have to trust that he is 100% committed to the relationship as much as I am.? So how can I trust him?

Well I believe that in every relationship it is important to give 100%. This is the biggest thing I hear from people, they just don?t feel you can fully trust anyone that lives in another state.

I disagree, trust is something that is necessary for me, and I have faith in him, if he proves me wrong, it won?t be easy, but I want to have full trust and not have a constant worry that he is being faithful.

I would rather love and lose, then to never have loved before. I never want to sit home and wait for a person and watch my life pass me by, and I would never expect him to do that.

When he is gone I want him to go out, make friends, and enjoy life, and I truly want him to be happy no matter where he is living. I think that it is really important to not try and be like everyone else, and don?t judge other people. I believe you should stay true to yourself.

We have also made it a priority to work on seeing each other once a month.? Now this is difficult with both of us having crazy schedules and for the cost of travel, but we still try to do it every month.

We also Face Time a couple times a week. It is great talking to him on the phone, but with Face time, I love seeing his face.? As in any relationship, communication is essential, we are honest and open with each other.

Being apart so much makes our time together momentous. When he is gone it makes me appreciate the little things that he does to help me out.??? Every time we get to see each other it is always exciting.

On the flipside, I keep thinking that one day I will get used to seeing him leave but I will tell you as of yet it has not gotten any easier.? I always feel that each time gets harder to let go.? I have to focus on appreciating the time we get to spend together and how much I enjoying being with him.

I am definitely not an expert on long distance relationships; we still have fights like every other couple, and we work hard to have better communication and solve any issues that do come up.

I am grateful for everything this relationship is and how it will grow in the future. As for your long distance relationships, I say take your life and relationship and do what makes sense for you.

?From One Girl To Another?

Tawnee

P.S. ?From One Girl To Another, and Women Empowering Women! ?ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW !

?You have got to discover you, what you do, and trust it.? -Barbra Streisand

?Deciding whether or not to trust a person is like deciding whether or not to climb a tree, because you might get a wonderful view from the highest branch, or you might simply get covered in sap, and for this reason many people choose to spend their time alone and indoors, where it is harder to get a splinter.? ~Lemony Snicket

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